Every Sunday I make a point to stop and greet these two older ladies who are brought to church together because neither can drive and both want to be in church. They walk with canes and they are full of wrinkles. They are getting older every week. Sometimes I feel like I can see them age. Then some weeks they smile big and look younger. You can almost see them as they used to be.
Visiting the elderly
I love to chat with them. I enjoy hearing stories about their families. They enjoy my kids. I think they enjoy the fact that I take a little time for them. We go to two different services. My family goes to the early services and these ladies to the later service. So we don’t have a lot of time to chat, but when they don’t come I miss them.
This month I noticed they both seem sadder and older. It makes me a little sad. I tried to take more time to chat with them this month.
Issues with aging
Eadie tells me her eyesight is going. She doesn’t want to have to live in a home. She loves living in her own house. It’s the house she went to as a newlywed and where her kids grew up. She has seven children. Her daughters take turns visiting her and bringing her food because they don’t trust her to bake anymore. She only has to heat up the food to have something to eat. But she spends a lot of her time reading. What will she do when she can no longer read? How will she fill her time? With her eyesight gone, will she be able to get around her house?
Helping old people
These are the things she asks me. I don’t have an answer. Why is her eyesight going? She’s over 90 so there are any number of reasons it might go. She asks me to pray for her.
For Claire it’s a totally different story. This summer her husband was moved to a nursing home. They have been married for 50+ years. They haven’t been apart very often at all in that time. It’s been months now. She’s used to being home alone more now, but it’s the holidays. She’s never had Thanksgiving or Christmas without him. Since she has to rely on others to bring her to see him, she can’t get there every day. Her kids did come to visit and take her to see him on Thanksgiving, but she wasn’t sure about Christmas. How happy is Christmas without your loved ones?
I listen to these women and I wonder about my future. If I had a car instead of a van I would take Claire to see her husband. But she can’t climb into the van. I might be able to help her out on the occasional weekend. For Eadie maybe I can find her a way to listen to audio books. Audio books aren’t quite the same to her because she doesn’t really do much with electronics. There must be something simple to at least help her to pass the time. When my kids are reading better, I might send them over to read to her or talk with her occasionally. They remind me that we are to help care for everyone. These women need friends and help and I want to be that for them. Some day I might be where they are and need to rely on others.